Watch People Humiliate Their Kids
Child shaming seems to be all the rage. We have the guy who made his daughter wear a shirt with his face on it and parents that make their kids stand around with a sign. All great for a clip at the end of the nightly news; but is it parenting, loving or useful? Or do these people think they are living in a sitcom? I have a few questions for these so called caregivers.
My first question is: Are you proud of using your children to get attention for yourself? Make no mistake, this is about you. About you getting attention online and maybe being on the TV. You put this stuff out there and promoted it. You are using your child's humiliation as a springboard to notoriety. You are saying to the world "Look what I made this kid do, isn't it funny, lets all laugh at them."
That brings me to my second question: isn't this just good old fashion bullying? Bullying is using force or coercion to abuse or intimidate others. Public shaming is just that. The purpose of making a child stand with a sign or wear a shirt is to force a behavior through intimidation and humiliation. What does this teach the offender? The child learns that the person that is the rock in their world is willing to sell them to rabid trolls in order to get internet famous.
Also, a child learns to treat others the way they are treated. I don't mean hippy crap. People are taught proper behavior. Good people learn to be good people from good people. Abuses learn their trade in a similarly structured training program. These kids are learning that humiliation and intimidation are the paths to getting what they want.
It may be a cute thing to see something like this in a Facebook share from your aunt. After all, you spent the evening wrangling the kids into bath and bed and that picture gives you your first smile of the day...at 11:00 PM. But the future spouses, coworkers and children of these victims will not think the inherited torment that is funneled through the generations is so cute.
Look, there is only one thing that is for sure when it comes to raising kids: nobody knows anything. Every kid, family and situation is different. Who am I to say what works for you? But, as we try our best to shape the next generation can we do it without selling out our kids for Facebook likes?